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Divorce Guidelines

Did you have fun today? Smile? Laugh?

Did you learn something today?

Did you make someone happy today?

Did you love someone today?

Did you make money today? Save money? Invest money?

Did you practice for an event you enjoy today?

Did you do something for your kids, mate, or friends today?

Did you do something to simplify your life today?

Did you do something to lower stress today?

Did you do anything to get closer to your goals today?

Did you eat smart and exercise today?

Did you follow your daily routines of pride and self-improvement?



Keep in writing clearly defined goals for your life and review annually.

Put short-term goals in writing and review at least every three months.

Do at least one thing a day, no matter how small, to move forward toward your goals.

Break big jobs into little jobs so you are not overwhelmed.

Know what you want to accomplish each day, week, month and year. Use lists.

You can't do everything yourself, we all need the help of others.

Concentrate on getting results and reaching objectives, rather than long hours.

Set priorities and stick to them. Don't let urgent jobs replace important jobs.

Try hard not to waste time. You can't get it back. We don't know how much we have.

Write down important ideas as soon as they come to mind, so you won't forget.

Keep a diary so you know how you are doing. Force yourself to plan ahead.

Force yourself to be organized. Set deadlines for yourself. Life is short.

Think and live in the present. Past and future are out of our reach.

Control your own life. Don't fall into the nice guy trap. Say no.

Keep every part of your life as simple as possible. Seek permanent solutions to problems.

The tiniest corrective action outweighs all the complaining possible.

Avoid burnout by keeping variety in your life. Guard time-off by limiting activities.

Don't be overly concerned about what other people think of you.

Care about the opinions of those few people who are important to you.

Value only the opinions of those who are competent to judge you.

Choose your friends wisely. Stop seeing friends who pull you in the wrong direction.

Develop and follow daily routines of pride and self-improvement.

Remember the "ACID Rule." All Criticism Is Destructive. Thank-yous are productive.

Intelligence must be seasoned with humility and common sense to be edible.

Don't gossip. Even if it was true, it won't be after it goes around.

Honesty is the basis of trust, respect and love. Honesty minimizes guilt.

Don't complain. Change the things that can be changed and avoid or endure what can't be.

Remain calm; don't cloud decisions with emotion and overreaction.

Develop the habit of smiling, laughing and being happy.

Be true to yourself and your beliefs.

Copyright @1989 by Richard A. Pedersen All rights reserved. Do not reproduce without the author's permission.